Favorite dating shows

I have to be honest .. first of all I find men of all races attractive (chocolate brown skin of a man of African descent to bisque of a red headed Irish Man) but usually am attracted to Asian, White, European, Italian, South Asian, Middle Eastern and foreign men in general.  But as a woman living in Los Angeles, CA it is DANGED competitive as HELL!!!  It's the land of the 'Barbie' doll .. super skinny, super young, skinny and surgery enhanced big boobs and/or asses.

So I never got much interest from men after gaining a lot of weight after moving to LA and not eating healthy/working out/walking.  But I've been working on myself for the past two years.  I've lost over 50 pds with changing my diet, taking long daily walks and regularly working out at the gym.  In addition I've changed up my super conservative style of dress and taken the advice of my dating gurus.  Patti Stanger of Millionaire Matchmaker, Matt and Tamsen Fadal Titus (Matched in Manhattan) NYC Love Consultants, Steve & Joanne Ward of Tough Love, Patti Novak of Confessions of a Matchmaker, What Not To Do dating show and chatting with friends who are married/dating.

So accepted that I need to wear makeup, color on my lips (to show off my great smile), got Lasik (so everyone can see my glorious big brown eyes), wearing cute clothes that show off my assets (cleavage, small waist) and styling my hair.  It's working!  I notice men have started to approach and flirt with me.   AND they are guys I'm interested in speaking with and dating! 

I've learned to like myself as I am and not putting my life on 'hold' till I get more 'perfect).  I know that right now I look really good.  I'm getting closer to getting to my ideal dating weight and am pretty cute too! 

Wine Tasting at Pourtal Wine Bar in Santa Monica -- JLLA Benefit

Come join my friends and I at Pourtal Wine Tasting Bar this Friday, May 28th! Lots of nice friendly people, great women AND guys!!!

The Pourtal Wine Tasting Bar , in Santa Monica, has generously offered to give 15% of Tasting Sales to JLLA for 2 weeks during their weekday Happy Hour events from May 17th through May 31st! They are also hosting an informal and FREE social on Friday, May 28th, for Happy Hour from 5:00 - 7:00 PM.

Their "Angel Shares" Happy Hour offers $5 .00 glasses of premium wine and $4.00 appetizers. Yum!!

Where: Pourtal Wine Bar
104 Santa Monica Boulevard
Santa Monica, CA 90401

When: May 21st from 4:00 - 7:00 PM
May 24th from 4:00 - 11:00 PM
May 25th through May 28th from 4:00 - 7:00 PM
May 31st from 4:00 - 11:00 PM

My positive love list for 2010!

This my list of what I think is important in the man I am in love with

Must Have’s – Not Negotible:

1. Good sense of humor
2. Smart
3. Kind
4. Honest
5. Dependable
6. Sci Fi/Fantasy interest
   
7. Creative
8. Intellectually curious
9. Attractive (my type) -- geeky
10. Nice smile
11. College educated
12. Single and emotionally available
13. Well read
14. Politically aware
15. Omnivore
    

Can Compromise:

1. Type of humor/sarcastic personality
2. Dog lover
3. Politically active
4. Book lover
5. Romantic gestures
6. Sci Fan/Fantasy Fan
7. Comic Con Attendee
   

Definitely Don’t Want:

1. Dishonest
2. Mean
3. Cruel
4. Lazy
5. Not ambitious
6. Not interested in family/marriage
7. Doesn't like animals
8. Drug user
9. Smoker
10. Right wing conservative
    

Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/lifestyle/horoscopes/2009/12/29/2009-12-29_positive_thought_love_list.html#ixzz0b7Ys0sls

New daily goal

I've always tried to smile or at least say hello to one person a day BUT now I've decided to really step up my dating. So I'm going to flirt with men more and try to seem more 'available'.

My goal will be to strike up a conversation with at least one man a day. I read the Steve Harvey dating book (GREAT read and quite insightful) and it's given me some good ideas of how to interact with men. I've always been a 'go with the flow' type of woman who tried to be 'understanding' about behavior I didn't like/agree with but now I realize that if I want a top quality guy I have to not compromise.

So I want a guy who's my equal. A person happy with his job/life, professional, college educated, attractive, good personality, nice, honest, no game playing and someone with common interests/life goals.

Now I just have to figure out where these men are in LA!